Tre expressed her desire to have a child two days ago and I have begun to do what I always do when I am presented with a task. I have become hyper vigilant about finding a way to make her desire a reality.
I have spent the better part of the day online researching the ins and outs of the adoption /foster process. As I have learned new things I have been sharing them with her through phone calls and text messages. I have not let up. Why? Because she said she wanted to have a child. Well, let’s go get one! Is my thought process, but is it too much?
While I have been finding a lot of information and getting some good answers to some of my initial questions, new questions seem to be popping up left and right. I’ve been brainstorming and bouncing ideas off of her all day and now I’m starting to get the vibe that she isn’t as in to the whole process as she was just two short days ago.
I’ve been asking her questions like:
- How soon do you want to have a child in our home?
- Why do you want a child?
- Why do you want to become a foster parent?
- What is the age range of the child or children you would be most interested in fostering / adopting?
Towards the end of our last conversation about this topic, she expressed that she was beginning to feel pressured by me.
Is that my fault?
Have I presented her with too much information and too many situations at once?
What is the appropriate level of enthusiasm to have two days into researching the process to foster/adopt a child?